If you’re a woman, you probably know where your clitoris is located – or do you? In my experience, even medical students have confused the clitoris with the urethra, showing just how little is known about it. As a society, we tend to focus on male pleasure and ignore female sexual anatomy, but the clitoris is a complex organ that deserves as much attention as the penis – if not more. In this blog post, we will break down the myths and truths surrounding the clitoris, so you can better understand your own body and have a more fulfilling sex life.

Myth #1: The Clitoris is Just a “Little Hill”

The clitoris is often referred to as the female equivalent of the penis, and indeed, they have a lot in common. But while the penis is a well-known and well-studied organ, the clitoris has long been shrouded in mystery and misinformation. For example, the word “clitoris” comes from the ancient Greek word for “little hill,” which implies that it’s just a tiny bump on the vulva.

In reality, the clitoris is a complex organ that extends deep into the pelvis, with branches that reach around the sides of the vagina and into the tissue of the vulva. The visible part of the clitoris – the glans – is just the tip of the iceberg. Depending on the literature, the clitoris can be anywhere from 7 to 9 centimeters deep in the pelvis.

Myth #2: Vaginal Orgasms and Clitoral Orgasms are Different

There’s a myth that vaginal orgasms and clitoral orgasms are two different things, but in reality, orgasm by definition is a sensation of intense pleasure that’s accompanied by a release of sexual tension and often rhythmic contractions of the pelvic muscles. What this means is that there is no such thing as a “vaginal” orgasm – all orgasms involve the clitoris. However, it is true that different people enjoy different types of touch. While some women may prefer direct clitoral stimulation, others may prefer more indirect or subtle touch, such as the kind provided by deep penetration. It’s important to communicate with your partner about their preferences and try new things, so you can both discover what works best for you.

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Myth #3: Women Who Don’t Orgasm During Penetration are “Frigid” or “Broken”

This is perhaps one of the most damaging myths about female sexuality. The fact is, 80-95% of women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm during intercourse. The remaining 15-20% who orgasm during penetration also receive simultaneous clitoral stimulation. Women who don’t achieve climax during vaginal stimulation are likely missing clitoral stimulation, not because they are frigid or broken. It’s important to remember that there is no one universal way to sexually please a person. Different people enjoy different types of touch – gentle, pressure, vibration, oral stimulation – and it’s up to each individual to discover what they like. Women should not feel frustrated or ashamed if they can’t get vaginal orgasms, as it’s likely just a function of the clitoral body and shaft’s position.

What Can You Do to Better Understand Your Own Clitoris?

As we have seen, there are many myths and misconceptions surrounding the clitoris. So, what can you do to better understand your own body and have a better sexual experience? 

Here are some tips: 

1. Educate Yourself: Learn about the anatomy of the clitoris, read scientific articles, and familiarize yourself with your own body.

2. Communicate with Your Partner: Talk to your partner about what feels good to you, what you enjoy, and what you want to try. Make it a collaborative effort.

3. Experiment: Try different types of touch, different positions, different toys, and techniques to see what feels good to you.

4. Don’t Be Afraid to Seek Professional Help: If you’re experiencing pain, discomfort, or difficulty achieving orgasm, don’t be afraid to seek help from a urologist or gynecologist.

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In conclusion, the clitoris is often neglected and misunderstood, but it is a vital part of female sexuality. By educating ourselves, communicating with our partners, experimenting, and seeking professional help when necessary, we can better understand our own bodies and enjoy a more fulfilling sex life. Remember, the clitoris is not just a little hill – it’s a complex and fascinating organ that deserves our attention and appreciation.