How fast is too fast? And what exactly is normal?
It is common for both young boys and young girls to believe that intercourse should last for an extended period of time. Men believe they need a huge penis that can last for a long time in order to satisfy their partner. And everyone believes that when the penis enters the vagina, it’s immediate pleasure and fireworks for everyone.
Desirable versus. Normal
According to previous research, a large percentage of men and women who responded want sex to last 30 minutes or longer. Therapists weigh in their beliefs of what is normal
American and Canadian couples therapists estimated the ideal duration of sexual intercourse in a study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2008. According to a survey of sex therapists in the United States and Canada, satisfactory sexual intercourse for couples lasts between 3 and 13 minutes (though this varies greatly). A man’s or woman’s perception of his or her sexual behavior, and also the partner’s, is is usually determined by what they see, read and hear in popular media. Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes of a need for large penises, rock-hard erections, and all-night-long intercourse to have pleasure
Conclusion: The ideal duration of intercourse is anywhere between seven and fifteen minutes. They believed that less than two minutes was insufficient. And anything between ten and thirty minutes was too long.
Sex should be pleasurable, no matter how long it is. Some people prefer a long, seductive encounter, whereas others want something quick and aggressive. The important thing is to have satisfying sex rather than watching the clock
Unfortunately sometimes biology plays a role.
In some cases, underlying biological factors may affect the duration of your sexual experiences.
Age
As you become older, you may notice that:
– it takes longer to get aroused
– it is difficult to achieve and/or maintain erections
– There could be decreased libido and/or vaginal dryness that would lead to hormonal changes affecting sexual activity
Genitalia
The structure or shape of your genital area could also play a role. In one 2003 study, researchers discovered that their penis shape, particularly the ridge around the head, may have developed to be more competitive.
The ridge can displace any pre-existing sperm in the vagina. More semen displacement results from deeper and more vigorous thrusting. This allows the ejaculating partner to make room with their own sperm, increasing their chances of pregnancy.
With competitive evolution as a backdrop, this could clarify why some users find it hard to continue thrusting after ejaculation. Continuing to thrust may cause your own sperm to be displaced, reducing your chances of reproducing.
Sexual Dysfunction
Premature ejaculation, or ejaculation that occurs before either partner desires affects between 30% to 40% of men at some point in their lives. Premature ejaculation is the most common type of sexual dysfunction in men, according to the American Urological Association. Premature ejaculation affects about one in every five men aged between 18 and 59.
Delayed ejaculation is the need for an extended period of sexual stimulation to reach climax. Here are some tricks to help you if you’re not reaching climax quickly enough:
Make contact with yourself – Masturbation
Masturbation can be a good way to ensure that you get the Big O if you’re short on time. After all, you are the expert on your own body! You can also enjoy mutual masturbation to get your partner involved. This allows you both to climax while remaining intimate.
Ask your partner exactly what you really want – communicating your desires to your partner — and vice versa — can help you both understand what it takes to orgasm each other. You can use what you’ve learned to help you get to the finish line faster.
If despite all your efforts you’re still not getting their in time, talk to your doctor, a psychologist, or a sex therapist about your concerns.
Conclusion
The definition of sex, personal expectations, and consensual desires all have an impact on how long sex can last. If you’re truly worried about how long you’ll be able to have sex, consult a doctor or other medical provider. They can talk to you about how you’re feeling, answer any questions you have, and evaluate any underlying symptoms or other discomforts.
